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Eulogy

Dec 18, 2009



I attended a funeral in these past few days.

I sat in the back of the church dressed in black and listened to a priest go on about resurrection and Jesus and that pesky battle at the end of the world when we all get conscripted. I was not amused. When two loved ones of the deceased were brought up to speak on behalf of the deceased, they were allowed only to read selections of religious scripture. Probably best to warn you now, I get angry when people die; it overrides my sadness almost as a defense mechanism. Watching these poor people read these empty and confusing bits of religious writing got my temper going. There was a lot more that should have been said.

On behalf of the deceased I would have walked up there with that little page of religious scripture, crumpled it up and thrown it at the priest. Then I would have said, “John Anthony Esposito was a good guy, the best. He was the father of my best friend and a man I greatly respected and admired for his gruff and straightforward nature. If anywhere in god’s plan resides the necessity for John to have died, then fuck god for poor planning. There are not enough John Anthony Esposito’s in this world. In fact, there aren’t any anymore. It’s as the extinction of a species that will pass into legend.” John, or as I always referred to him, Mr. Esposito, would probably have laughed a that and then told me not to get so down on God, he’s got a lot going on.

I don’t know if Joe will be ready to write something like this for a long while, so I felt it passed to me to honor the man. Joe’s father was a unique force in our world. He was a listener of the show and use to comment to us about it, which always raised our self-awareness on what we were up to. Joe started cursing less because of his father. More so, Mr. Esposito was, I know, one of the heroes of Joe’s world and one of the wiser more respected men in mine. As cunning or witty as you may believe Joe and I will ever be, Mr. Esposito was always a step ahead, honed to a near glass point of commentary. I don’t think he ever realized this about himself, but the great ones never do. 

Mr. Esposito was priceless to us, and his loss changed our worlds completely. Isn’t that strange how just one person can make tomorrow a completely different place. I’m sure you all out there have dealt with some kind of loss of this type, and that’s why it felt right to share it with you. The Ozone Nightmare has been a stream of thought and emotion, and you’ve been swimming in it with us a long way now. We’re hurt, we’ll get the current going again soon, promise, but we just need a few minutes to catch our breath.

John Anthony Esposito, you will be missed and cross into myth.

- Lando


Carl
almost nine years ago

Mr. Esposito raised a smart and energetic son and earned the respect of people all around the world through the Ozone Nightmare. I wish all the very best to the loved ones left behind who will carry Mr. Esposito memory with great joy but with a heavy heart of the loss. May the Universe take Mr. Esposito back into its Stardust to shine forever.

Crescendo
almost nine years ago

Joe, thank you for the information. Again, my condolences in this difficult time.

Joe
almost nine years ago

Thank you all for your good thoughts, they are much appreciated. My parents both supported St. Jude\'s Children\'s Hospital and the American Cancer Society, so if you want to donate either of those would be great choices. Again, thank you. As always, our show community proves itself to be among the best out there.

Dave (UK)
almost nine years ago

There is no convenient time nor is there any comfort, for those left in the wake of a passing, that can fill the void.

My sincerest condolences to his widow, his family and yourselves.

Big Dave (OZ)
almost nine years ago

I\'ve been going to a more and more funerals and services in the last few years, as the older, or less fortunate, members of my family begin to pass, I remember one priest passing judgment on an uncle once. Basically he was a drinker, smoker, gambler and womanizer, but he was everyone\'s go to guy. If someone needed help, he was their man. He was the best!. But this priest disagreed that he was a \"good\" man, because he wasn\'t religious, he didn\'t give money to the church. That priest almost got thrown out the door.

I sometimes wonder how we can live up to the standards set by those before us. The lives they lived, we grew up with the stories of their lives, the amazing things they accomplished, things we can\'t hope to match. I think our lives are too much out of our control now. But we do our best.

As for that rubbish about god\'s plans, and god\'s will. It doesn\'t wash with me either. Too many good people die too young, and too painfully. And too many bad people get away with too much. I feel your indignation.

Please pass on my condolences.

Dave.

Fieldy
almost nine years ago

Dear Joe, my sincere condolences to you and your family.

I hope that you will one day soon be able to experience the joy of being a father and continue the cirle of life within the Esposito family

RIP

FeeFee
almost nine years ago

I\'m incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. I only had the opportunity to meet Mr. Esposito once. He was a character that exuded strength, and confidence. If I remember correctly, he made a mild threat against a friend of mine that day.

You have friends when you come back Joe.

Crescendo
almost nine years ago

Very sorry to hear the news. My sincerest condolences. I\'m sure Mr. Esposito had a good life.

Did Mr. Esposito have a favourite charity? I would gladly donate a modest sum.